You leave work and do more work. MYTH.
Wayyyy before I was on the baby train, I had no idea how my mom coworkers managed to work a full day and then go home and continue to "work", aka be a parent while I was mindlessly browsing the internet with my feet up. Getting home and being with Dalton is the absolute best.
I wait all day to see that smile. |
I spend the entire day at work counting down the hours, and get so excited when I finally pull into the parking lot at his daycare. I can't even believe I used to get excited about just sitting around by myself. I realize that sounds totally like it belongs on STFU Parents as all "my life without children was empty and meaningless!", but I call it like I see it.
It's how I imagine the world was for chocolate lovers before Reese's were invented. They all thought chocolate was so great and couldn't be improved, then BAM someone filled it with peanut butter and they realized what they thought was perfection could get so much better. Don't get me wrong, I still love being lazy and mindless entertainment, and I certainly do it during naptimes. It's just not the best way to occupy my time anymore.
Working out will be challenging to fit in. FACT.
I am gladly willing to sacrifice housework for it and less glad to sacrifice a tiny bit of sleep. I do what I can and if I can get in a couple minutes of sweat on any given day while Dalton is sleeping, great. If not, so be it.
We have a lot going for us here.
- We live in a small place (no going up and down stairs).
- We both get ready at more or less the same time (and therefore can tag team baby entertaining/getting ready).
- Dalton is still at the age where you can plop him down and rest assured he will stay in that spot (when that ends, god help us).
- He's too young to have an opinion about anything and I get to dress him in whatever cute outfits I want.
Preppy baby. I die. |
- My job requires me to read novels with ten year olds, not meet with clients. AKA I don't have to dress to impress, or look put together, or even shower if you want to get technical (but, I still do). It's even better now that I teach kids old enough to understand tact. When I taught first grade, they thought nothing of yelling out "what's that big red bump on your nose?!". Side note - pregnancy did not clear up my skin as promised.
Obviously, it takes more time and is more hectic than when we were only responsible for ourselves, but it's not too bad.
I would miss my weekend social life. MYTH
Because we have awesome friends (both to spend time with and to babysit), we actually went on a "date" this weekend! Our very first date ever was the Saturday of MLK Jr. weekend, so it really pleased me that our first post baby date was the same day. I'm easy to amuse.
Because we have awesome friends (both to spend time with and to babysit), we actually went on a "date" this weekend! Our very first date ever was the Saturday of MLK Jr. weekend, so it really pleased me that our first post baby date was the same day. I'm easy to amuse.
We went out for my lovely running buddy, Lily's birthday.
Dalton helped me wrap the gift. |
Right now I can't imagine being mad at this face. |
Leaving your
baby with someone else sucks. FACT.
There’s no way around the fact that leaving him is torture
each morning and I miss him like crazy all day long. First I was wracked with
guilt over him being miserable and crying all day. Then I went to pick him up
this week and he was happily sitting in his caregiver's arms. I was so relieved that he was
content. But also kind of like…hey let’s not get too chummy here. I’m your mom
and you are supposed to like me the best. So basically there’s no winning.
Doing
errands after work is a pain. DEPENDS.
On one hand, who wants to waste our precious short time
together driving places? On the other hand, sometimes he falls asleep on the
way home anyway, and then I can kill two birds with one stone and get stuff
done while he takes his evening nap. That worked out Friday and then he woke up
and had a blast looking around Target, AND it lit a fire under my ass to get in
and get out and I didn’t leave with $50 worth of stuff that wasn’t on the list.
This cuteness almost caused me to crash the cart numerous times. |
There’s also a grocery store right around the corner from his daycare, so it’s
pretty convenient to run in and grab a couple things I need for dinner on my
way to pick him up.
Housework
would never happen again. MYTH.
I’ve been pretty transparent that I’m no Suzy Homemaker to
begin with, but obviously even the bare minimum to keep a place livable takes
time. Babywearing is a lifesaver – I’ve been strapping him on and doing skin to
skin time when I get home and getting as much done as I can before he gets
antsy. Cuddles + productivity = winning, plus it’s supposedly a way to help
your supply. The past two weekends we did cleaning blitz during naptime – quickly
divided up tasks based on skill sets before we put him down, then raced to get
as much done as we could before he woke up. So while things are still, and
will probably always be messy, they aren’t too dirty.
I
hesitate to speak on this subject because last time I described sleep as “good”
I got my ass handed to me that night. Coffee is certainly a lifesaver and maybe
I’m getting used to being functional on less sleep? Or maybe it just hasn’t
been long enough and soon being upright will be physically painful? At any
rate, clearly painting was exhausting, because this kept happening when we got home.
He was midsentence for this one. |
I was concerned with his breathing here. |
Which painting do you like better, mine or Eric's?
The paintings look great (but not as great as any photo of Dalton.) Will you hang them? Just curious, what novels are you reading with the ten year olds? Have you read Gregor the Overlander? That's a middle grade series written by Suzanne Collins.
ReplyDeleteHmmm neither of us feels our painting is worthy of display haha! We are "limited" by what's available in class sets at our school (and I say that in quotes bc we do have a lot and I am super lucky our principal even let's me do novels!). We just started Stone Fox and From the Mixed Up Files of Mrs. Basil E Frankweiler. Never heard of that one! I'll have to check it out!!
ReplyDeleteThose pictures of your husband are hilarious! I have a couple silly ones of my boyfriend and the cat passed out together but he'd never let me put them on my blog :-(
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry but I couldn't hear anything over Eric's beard! Is it new? It looks awesome!
ReplyDeleteWe have a sort of similar concept out here called "wine and canvas". One time we did a girl's night there and brought our paintings back to where our husbands were all hanging out and made them guess which painting belonged to their wife. After Travers decided that ALL of the paintings were too good to be mine, I'm pretty sure everyone was offended at least once before the guessing was over. The moral of the story is.... I know better than to comment on people's paintings :) They both look pretty good to me though!
ReplyDeleteAlso, the most surprising myth to me is the getting ready for the day one. I would've for sure thought that was true. Sometimes I can barely get Travers to get himself ready for the day on time!
(sorry for the super long comment)
Love love the pictures of Eric and the captions (although obvi Dalton is the cutest)!! My addition: having a friend going through the exact same back to work ordeal with a baby basically the same age that you can complain to and they totally get it is a godsend. FACT
ReplyDeleteTalking about you obvi...
Awwww I completely agree!! Husbands are great but they just do not get it on this one.
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