I really appreciate all the great suggestions for how to spend my birthday! Unfortunately, they all seemed to require work and energy. It was also pointed out to me that my original plan of sleeping, reading, baking, and a quiet dinner with my husband are, in fact, things you can't do with a baby, so I'm sticking with that glorious plan. I'm one of those annoying people that asks for advice then ignores it and just does whatever she wants.
|My infamous 27th birthday. Probably the last crazy one I'll have.|
Today is my last day of being 30 years old, tomorrow I'll officially be "in my 30s". I'll celebrate an entire year in this golden decade. Or, if you choose to look at it in the much more disturbing way, and entire decade into legal drinking territory. Since I'll ironically be celebrating sober, I plan to double down on cake (which really means quadruple down for me), and I would really appreciate as many people as possible having some delicious wine on June 19th for me.
Being a year in, I'm basically an expert, so here's some realizations I've come to in this golden decade, since I know many people, myself included, tend to fear it.
1. Decorating is overrated
At least for me. Some people truly enjoy it, and more power to them. I used to really wish I was one of them. But now, as I look around my home with builder grade white paint walls, adorned with a few framed pictures from 2009 and nothing else, I don't anymore. I just don't naturally have an "eye" for making things look good, or whatever. We have comfortable furniture and it's just more enjoyable to me to spend my free time reading books, or writing blog posts about how I don't care that I can't make rooms look pretty. So now I'm over it, and anyone who judges me probably wouldn't be invited over anyway.
2. Sometimes people don't like you
For some reason this year I found myself in situations where I had to spend a significant amount of time with a few people people who really couldn't stand me, and didn't try to make a secret of it either. Aside from the fact that it's clearly shocking, it can be a serious blow to the self esteem. I've never been terribly thick skinned. In my 20s, I probably would have cried every night and desperately tried to befriend everyone. But now that I'm a little older and wiser, I found it a lot easier to just stop giving a crap. In some cases we made nice and actually became friends, and in others, they still hate my guts and I still don't care. Although I do think it would be kind of funny if they read here.
3. Life is too short to spend with dumb people
I really like me, and I really don't like everybody. As I got a little older, I started only accepting social invitations if they are going to be more fun than staying home and reading or watching TV. That's a high bar, because I really enjoy that activity. I used to feel guilty about that, but now I'm over it. We have to waste enough time working, cleaning, paying bills, and doing other activities that suck, so in my down time, I want to enjoy it.
4. Don't ignore tooth pain
Seriously. It leads to more pain, and then way more pain when you finally treat it and get the bill, the worst part of all. I'll never make this mistake again.
5. Don't ever attempt to run a 50k in the snow, especially if you are unprepared, and really especially if you are pregnant and don't know it yet
Also, you truly never know who might be reading your blog, apparently even medics have down time to waste on Chocolate is my Life.
6. It is possible to have fun without alcohol
I never would have predicted this, and don't intend for it to be a continued lifestyle change, but it is actually true.
7. Stop comparing yourself to others
We have nothing but smart, successful friends, and sometimes it gets annoying, and we get tempted to cut all ties and start over with only people who live in their parents' basements. But as I've already explained, I'm pretty picky with who I spend my time with, so I doubt it would be easy to replace the people I've already found, and the basement dwellers probably wouldn't make the cut, so I've had to just get over it. From what I've heard, this will also serve me well as I enter the frightening mom world.
What important lesson would you add to this list? Being over 30 is not a requirement.