Monday, September 17, 2012

Marriage advice

Eric and I have been married for over 4 years now without any major fights resulting in injuries for either party, so I figured it was time to share some of our magic with the internet. You are welcome in advance for the following gem. 

You know that episode of Full House where Jesse and Becky get in a fight because she makes him ride horses (which he hates) and he makes her hang out at the Smash Club and listen to his band (which she hates)? No? Just me? Well anyway they make up by coming to an agreement that neither of them will do activities unless they want to, but then they get super romantic and say that they each "want" to do the activity that they hated 3 seconds earlier because they want to be with the other person. 

Their agreement pretty much sums up our marriage, minus the part at the end about "doing things anyway to be together". After my first marathon (when Eric didn't run at all) my training group had a happy hour to celebrate. As soon as I walked in, my friend asked where my husband was, seemingly surprised that I didn't bring him. Um, home, because spending 3 hours drinking and listening to reviews of mile splits, cramps, and hydration sounded like hell to him. 

Now, don't get me wrong, Eric was up at the ass crack of dawn to cheer me on at the race, and I've been to plenty of football games to see him coach. We support each other, but we have just never felt the need to "support" each other at social events that don't interest us. 

That being said, I spent Sunday night at a sports bar, watching a WWE pay per view. Eric has always loved WWE, and goes periodically to this bar with a bunch of like minded buddies whenever there's a pay per view event. There was even a live taping on my birthday that I encouraged him to go to. We didn't have school Monday, so I decided to finally take Eric up on his invitation and see what it was all about. 

6 of the 87 TVs I could choose to watch from
I was there. #proof
What happens when Eric gets any camera
I've always told myself that I don't like WWE wrestling because I don't like violence. But then when I started including all sorts of exceptions to this rule in my head, I started think maybe that wasn't true.

"I don't like violence....unless it's of the werewolf vs. vampire variety".

Game For The Twilight Movie

"I don't like violence....unless it's a government mandated fight to the death among teenagers".

"I don't like violence...unless it's in a possibly British, psycho medieval fantasy world".

So I can't exactly claim I don't like violence, but WWE was still terrible. The highlight of the whole experience was the people watching. People in the bar got hysterical, screaming at the top of their lungs, jumping up and down, pounding on tables, etc. I wanted to judge them so badly. I was really mad at myself for going to all the Twilight movies on opening night and therefore sacrificing my right to ever judge anybody about their entertainment choices for the rest of my life. 

Since Eric and I worked pretty much opposite shifts we hadn't really seen each other all weekend, so it was fun hanging out with him and learning a little about his obsession, but that show is the stupidest thing I've ever seen.

Speaking of mile splits being boring, I did a 9 mile run today with 3X2 miles at half marathon pace, which I decided would be 8:15. My splits were 8:19, 8:18, 8:14, 8:13, 8:24, 8:03. I didn't look at my watch the whole time, so even though I was a little slow, at least I was fairly consistent. 

I wanted to share my dinner tonight because it was really good and I recommend it. Yes, it's weird healthy food, Eric just said he likes it, so that makes it mainstream tasty. Southwest Stuffed Acorn Squash.

Don't worry, that whole squash was mine, I made Eric his own

If your significant other goes to a social event you have no interest in, do you go or stay home? I got Eric tickets to a Ravens/Browns game for his birthday (he's a huge Browns fan) and he invited me and I'm actually excited about going to an NFL game! That's a rare exception for us though. I will judge people who go to Twilight or Nicholas Sparks movies with their boyfriends/husbands - seriously make some girlfriends. 

Do you judge people for their entertainment choices?


  1. The Notebook played at Film on the Rocks this summer and a few girlfriends and I went to see it. We could not get over how many girls were there with their husbands/boyfriends! Dude, don't make him deal with that!

  2. My brother used to be obsessed with WWE and he tried to explain the story lines to me and my takeaway is that it's a soap opera, but with sweaty men in underwear.

    I try to be supportive of stuff that Jeff likes, but he likes lame stuff like baseball. It would be so much easier if he just liked cool stuff like Buffy. I don't know what's his problem.

  3. Yeah. I once dated a guy who was really into WWE but it would be like "come over tonight" and then the whole time he'd be glued to the tv while I wanted to boil my eyeballs in battery acid. So I have a legitimate hate for the fake wrestling. Men are so weird.

    1. I dated a guy in HS whose idea of a great date night was me watching him play some RPG on his computer all night. It was such an awful, awful fail.

      I only stuck around cause I liked his cat.

  4. We have no problem not hanging out either. Honestly if he goes to something he doesn't want to, I regret ever having him sit down in the car. We know better. It's been 10 years for us and we realize that socially we like to do a lot different things. He likes to sleep and I like to drink. We are a fabulous couple.

  5. The wrestling part is lame, but the one time I watched WWE with some guy friends I was somewhat entertained by the dramatics. One guy had to kiss another guy's bare butt and I have the maturity of a 14 year old boy. My husband and I can agree of very few things to watch together (neither of us watch WWE), but he's learned not to push it because I will mock relentlessly.

  6. Mike and I are pretty much the same way. He doesn't even usually come to my races unless he's racing them, too. We live together, we see each other everyday, so why do we have to do all of our out of the house activities together too?

    I'm glad you were so bored watching WWE that you could give me the play by play of people watching. It was awesome.

  7. I'm not sure I could sit through WWE, good thing there was people watching. We are pretty much the same, we both do plenty of our own things. We try to be supportive of the other but it seems like when we try to involve the other in something they completely hate, it ends badly. This basically means I no longer go to football games!

  8. We don't do things that we really don't want to do. Like when Patrick played beer Olympics and I ran an ultramarathon in July...we just divide and conquer, then meet up later and talk about what we did. It's good to have different interests and friends! It gives you something to talk about.

    I do not understand

  9. Allan and I have a lot of common interests but we do a lot of things separately. I never feel obligated to go to anything I don't want to and neither does he but I will admit that I love guy's night because I'm always invited and usually end up having just as much fun as they do.


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